Your loved one is lost in their addiction. Nothing seems to be working. They’ve refused to go to rehab, they’re in denial, and you just desperately want them to see how bad things actually are.
Does forced rehab work?
There’s a common saying that’s passed around to the family members of addicts: “In order to get better, they have to want it.” But actually, the success rates between those went to rehab voluntarily and those who were forced to go are very similar. Addiction is a disease that affects the brain. And like any other disease, treatment will have a similar result regardless of whether or not the patient actually desires it.
How to get an addict to go to rehab
If someone is in denial about their addiction and refuses to get help on their own, there are several options available to you:
Involuntary commitment, or court-ordered rehab, is an option when the addict is a danger to themselves or others. As of 2011, some form of court-ordered substance abuse treatment is possible in 38 states. The criteria for this ruling vary widely, and we’ll be honest—the process of attaining a court order like this can be long and difficult. This article is not intended as legal advice. If you want to pursue involuntary commitment, you can find more information here, and we highly suggest seeking the advice of a lawyer.
Holding an intervention
Although interventions do not “force” the individual to go to rehab, the social pressure can be extremely effective and should be your main focus whenever possible. There are many different types of intervention, but they’re all focused on the same thing: showing how the addiction is having a negative impact on the individual’s life, and providing a way out through rehab. As a voluntary rehab center, we definitely recommend interventions and have seen huge success with them.
How to get someone into rehab using an intervention
Holding an intervention can be a time-consuming process due to the amount of preparation needed. But if it gets your loved one into treatment, it is certainly time well spent. To hold a successful intervention, there are two key elements you should focus on:
Professional intervention specialists have helped plenty of people wake up the seriousness of their condition, and they’ll be able to guide the conversation and make sure it’s effective as possible. There are a lot of things that can go wrong during an intervention, and their presence can help minimize mistakes.
Being ready for the intervention is key. This is not an event to take lightly, and winging it is not an option. Be prepared for objections like “It’s too expensive,” “I’ll lose my job,” or “It won’t work.” How will you handle these responses? Prepare exactly what you’re going to say. An interventionist will be able to help you identify any weaknesses in your approach and plan for all situations.
What if the intervention fails?
Even if you do everything right, the intervention might fail. Don’t plan on this, but be ready for it. If the intervention fails, take some time to analyze what happened and brainstorm ways to improve it the next time around. Again, a professional can be invaluable for this. Then, follow through with any consequences that you laid out in the intervention. For example, if you said you’d stop paying for their apartment, do so. Did you say they couldn’t see their grandchildren if they didn’t get treatment? Approach the subject with empathy and love, but stick to what you said. This kind of tough love can be a real turning point as the individual realizes that their lifestyle is soon going to be unsustainable. And even if it doesn’t work now, your words will have more sway in the next intervention. Finally, prepare for another try. Sometimes it takes several interventions for someone to accept help. Improve your intervention plan however you can, then try again.
The Recovery Village can help get your loved one into treatment
Convincing a loved one that they need treatment can feel impossible. If you’re struggling to make an impact, we want to help. The Recovery Village is a voluntary rehab center, and we would love to get you in touch with an interventionist who can make your next intervention far more effective. Learn more by giving us a call at 888-419-4035.
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