When it’s time to leave an alcoholic boyfriend
Being in a relationship with an alcoholic boyfriend is painful, scary, and often difficult to handle.
There’s no right or wrong way to deal with an alcoholic boyfriend, but understanding the warning signs and when to seek help may help you make a more informed decision regarding your future together.
Warning Signs of Alcoholism
It’s hard to be objective when determining whether or not your boyfriend has a problem with abusing alcohol. Also, it’s not always easy to know how much is too much when there’s a culture of drinking among young people.
Although it’s not always clear-cut, here are some of the most common warning signs of alcoholism:
- He lies about or hides his drinking from you
- He regularly blacks out after drinking
- Once he starts drinking, he’s unable to stop or cut himself off
- He drinks in dangerous situations such as before work or driving
- He neglects his responsibilities like work or school
- He struggles to maintain positive and healthy relationships
- He’s able to drink significantly more than he used to
- He experiences withdrawal when he tries to stop drinking
- He tries to quit but is unable to
How To Encourage Him To Get Help
Although it may not feel like your place, it’s not unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get help for his addiction. You are his significant other, and his addiction has a serious effect on your relationship. However, it’s often a difficult subject to approach.
Sit down one-on-one in a quiet setting and talk about the situation. Let him know how you feel and your concerns about his drinking habits. Express your love and concern, and encourage your boyfriend to get help – whether it’s by attending AA meetings or entering inpatient alcohol treatment.
Don’t be surprised if he’s in deep denial or defensive when it comes to his addiction. This is common among high-functioning alcoholics, but there are ways to deal with it.
When It’s Time To Leave
There are many reasons a person chooses to stay with an alcoholic boyfriend, but it mostly boils down to fear.
Although the fear may be there, it’s no reason to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy. If your boyfriend is committed to getting help and is ready to make a change, by all means, stay with him. But if you’re stuck in an unhealthy relationship full of lies, arguments or abuse, the best thing you can do for yourself is leave.