Learn about how Laura’s struggles with alcohol throughout college turned into a journey toward lifelong sobriety and recovery.

Author Laura Silverman is the founder of The Sobriety Collective, a digital community for creatives in recovery from addiction and mental illness. She is proud to be a sober woman and has celebrated more than a decade of continuous sobriety since beginning her recovery journey on July 14, 2007.

“Growing up, I always felt like something was off. Despite having an amazing family – two wonderful parents and an older brother — I struggled to fit in. I was constantly teased and bullied. I was the nerdy girl in middle and high school, not entirely socially awkward, but I struggled with low self-esteem and insecurity, and my hyper-sensitivity made me a perfect target.”

My Battles With Alcohol as an Adolescent and Young Adult

I battled with anxietyOCD and panic attacks throughout my childhood and teenage years. When I got to college, I wanted to shed that old identity and become a more “fun” version of myself, whatever that meant. So naturally, drinking appealed to me, and I fell into a crowd of kids that liked to have a good time. At the time, I didn’t think their — or my — behavior was dangerous. Youth have a way of feeling immortal and we were all a little frivolous. I became the life of the party. I certainly didn’t realize I was self-medicating at the time, but I knew that I felt alive and I wanted to sustain that feeling.

Soon though, fun for me often turned into fun with problems — losing phones, drunk dialing (before I lost those phones), hazy memory. Then, just problems. Going home with random guys, blacking out entirely, injuring myself (the infamous broken foot incident), embarrassing myself and my friends, becoming “that” girl that had to be babysat, over-sharing personal secrets and waking up with dreaded hangovers cocooned by feelings of shame, guilt and terror.

After That, I Vowed Never to Drink Again.

Things got worse after I graduated from college. That was when I made my first ambulance-driven, paramedic-carried, shame-fest of a hospital visit. And after that, I vowed never to drink again. I went through several dry periods but couldn’t commit to taking the leap to sobriety. None of my friends were going through this — I couldn’t fathom not going to bars and parties. I was only 22.

Before I knew it, I picked right back up where I left off. And that’s when the night of July 13 happened.

July 13

I was in New York City for the first time with a former co-worker. We drank little airplane bottles of liquor on the bus from Washington, D.C., drank some more at his friend’s place and then drank some more at Madison Square Garden. My sole sustenance for the day was a bagel.

Cue browning out. I was running around in the lobby, one flip flop dangling, the other foot bare, without my purse, crying and begging for help. But the language that was coming out wasn’t English. It was drunk-babble and no one could help me. Fortunately, (I’ve been saved by many good Samaritans in my time), the Madison Square Garden police officers called an ambulance and they whisked me away to a NYC hospital. When I came to, seven hours later, I was still drunk. But I had no way to track down my cousin, whom I was supposed to stay with post-concert.

Unbeknownst to me, while I was passed out on the hospital bed, someone had found my purse and turned it into security. One of the guards called a recent number — either my mom or my cousin — and told whomever he spoke with that he had my belongings but I couldn’t be found. The family phone tree lit up, and I can’t even imagine the sheer panic and terror that I put my family through as they listened to that man tell them they couldn’t find me.

To make a long story short, I was eventually reuniting with my cousin. That evening, while out with her friends at dinner, she told me I could drink but not to give a repeat performance of the previous night’s horror show. As I said many times before, this time I fully meant it: I never want to drink again.

The next day, I took the bus back to D.C. (my bus ticket, along with everything else, was miraculously still in my purse that was returned to me) feeling like I had escaped from my body and mind. The only thing I could think to do was take a few days off work with a bad excuse because I needed space to breathe.

I called my health insurance company’s Substance Abuse and Mental Health division and asked for help. I met with a counselor who had me take the standard “Are you an Alcoholic” test, and I naturally answered “yes” to most of the questions but still couldn’t admit to a problem.

“I was only 24 and didn’t live the alcoholic stereotype – under a bridge with paper bag-covered bottles of booze. I never drove drunk. So how could I be an alcoholic?”

The Beginning of My Journey to Recovery

Still, I decided to take that lovely woman’s suggestion and gave the group counseling sessions she led a try. That was the beginning of my journey.

For five weeks, three days a week, two hours a day, along with 15 separate times, I had to sheepishly get my paper signed at AA meetings. All of us were breathalyzed at the beginning of every counseling session — it was intense. We would always recite our sobriety dates at the beginning of “class,” and while mine continued to stay the same, many from my cohort changed each week. Somehow, miraculously, mine didn’t change. I started to like not having alcohol as a crutch, but I still couldn’t think in terms of “forever.” It’s only when I read Smashed: Story of a Drunken Girlhood that I felt an internal click — something was churning inside of me.

Soon, my recovery started to become a source of pride for me. I would celebrate each month and then each year. I started therapy and got on an antidepressant for my anxiety. I exercised more. I spent more time with my family and didn’t just apologize for what I put them through. I demonstrated over the course of many years that I was now more responsible and accountable for my actions – that I was the daughter, sister, cousin and niece that I always thought I was but couldn’t fully materialize.

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By – Kelly Fitzgerald
Kelly is a sober writer based in Cape Coral, Florida, best known for her personal blog The Adventures Of A Sober Senorita. She has been published across the web on sites like The Huffington Post, SheKnows, Ravishly, The Fix, and Buzzfeed. Read more
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Editor – Jonathan Strum
Jonathan Strum graduated from the University of Nebraska Omaha with a Bachelor's in Communication in 2017 and has been writing professionally ever since. Read more
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